As soon as a woman discovers she is pregnant, she dreams of the day she would be able to hold her child in her arms. Nobody thinks of the path that leads to that moment of happiness. In India, especially, women are told from the very beginning that she should think about a “normal” delivery and that’s how she begins to think of the future as well. Not to discount, there are some women who go for elective C Section, of course.
This happened to me as well. I was told that a vaginal delivery is the best delivery and I should be mentally prepared for it. I walked, exercised, ate right and yet I had to undergo an emergency Cesarean Section. I was due on 3rd September and my Gynaecologist had asked me to patiently wait for the baby to arrive at its own right time unless there was a medical emergency.
September 1st: I had pains (which I thought was Braxton Hicks which refers to the weak contraction of the uterus) but I knew they were not contractions. I pinged my doctor at 3 am and she replied to me at 3.30, asking me to come to the hospital at 9.30am and added that I should call her if the intensity of the pain increases.
September 2nd: I went for the check-up at the given time; there was no dilation, no head engagement and no water burst. In short, there was no chance that I was in labour. My Doctor asked me to get an ultrasound done and instructed me to ask the radiologist to send the readings to her directly without waiting for the report.
Report: My amniotic fluid (fluid that surrounds the embryo/foetus) had started drying out and would need to get an emergency C Section done. This was at 2 pm. I was asked to have a cup of tea and get myself admitted. The C Section was scheduled at 6 o’clock.
I was pretty normal until I was rolled out from the room towards the OT, I spoke to my husband and my mother-in-law. But when they wheeled me into the room, I saw the infamous red colour bulb being switched on and that’s when I lost it. I was rolled into the major operation theatre (yes, Caesarean is a major surgery). The OT in charge came in to brief me about the entire procedure and also introduced me to the team of hospital staff who would be a part of the process. Then the anesthesiologist came in, told me about the syringe and how my posture should be. He, then, showed me the syringe as well. It was 6.20 (there was a clock in the room of course), the team was starting to get into their dresses for the process and I was numb in the lower part of the body. That’s when the OT head told my Gynecologist that I was extremely terrified and told him that I was scared I would probably not come out alive. My doctor understood that this fear had stemmed from the fact that I had hoped for a vaginal delivery and wasn’t prepared for an operation at all. What happened next is surprising:
The entire team kept talking among themselves and also to me. They would talk about their children, schools, TV shows and movies. I found the entire thing hilarious. I kept thinking, I am in pain and all these medical professionals are talking about such mundane things. It was only later that I realized that they did this to distract me from thinking about the painful and scary procedure that was taking place.
This one gesture of kindness won me over. This is exactly what every pregnant woman hopes she will receive and I was lucky enough to have received it. If I plan another baby, I know where I want to have my delivery done. The emotional support that the team provided me is one of the most important parameters that a pregnant woman and her family should check before choosing a hospital for delivering their bundle of happiness.
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